Sometimes All We Need Is To Spice Up The Sex Life...

I Remember The early Years Of Marriage ~ We spent DAYS in bed!

Didn't We? Ordering in breakfast, lunch and dinner ~ eating it in bed!

We had Less Worries, No Children, Plenty Of Energy, A Huge Need To Fulfill...ahhhh (Milly takes a warm, deep breath) But it soon wears off...

You Know That Feeling?  When:~

• They brush past you and your heart nearly skips a beat
• They look into your eyes and you "melt"
• You don't feel hungry when you should
• When they touch you the butterflies in your stomach flutter
• You think about nothing else
• They text you and all you can do is grin
• You long to be with them ALL the time
• Their smell does something physiological to you
• You can feel your blood powering through your veins
• You long for sex with them over and over and over...

Oh my goodness....I'm getting a little hot and bothered just thinking about how amazing that feeling is and If I could capture it and bottle it, I'd be a millionaire!
                                         
Of course when you get married this 'honey moon' period can't and doesn't last forever. I presume it's different from person to person and couple to couple but when you have children that tends to be a real turning point in the intimacy department>My goodness, it brings back memories for me and when I get guys asking me questions or telling me about the lack of sex within their relationship, I really do feel for them and I try to help. I think, I've evolved into a bit of a Sexual Therapist and I love it! I try to look at it from both perspectives and I guess that's another good reason to visit a more mature provider as opposed to a younger girl who perhaps doesn't have a wider perspective on the intricate parts of relationships.

That old book of life really does has a lot to say for itself, doesn't it?

I often get asked things like:~

"she just doesn't want sex as often any more"
"we used to have a fantastic sex life"
"I can't even cuddle her without her getting funny with me as she thinks it's only sex I want"
"My wife never ever initiates sex"
"she would never ever wear sexy lingerie"
"she just likes one position only"

Of course not all couples have these problems and sometimes it's only for a period of time after a child or when the children are little or if she's at the age that she may be approaching hormonal changes.
And you know what the biggest problem is? COMMUNICATION! I've been guilty of it myself within a relationship and I think that the longer something is left;the harder it is to approach the subject and the bigger the problem becomes. Men are built very differently to women, emotionally, physiologically and mentally plus they have totally different needs to us in all departments.

Sometimes It's Easier To Pretend There's Nothing Wrong

Of course you need to keep talking, it's a fundamental part of any good relationship but really I can see both sides guys. No woman feels sexy after giving birth and when children are little it becomes a vicious circle. She works hard looking after children, cooking, cleaning and really doesn't want to feel like a "thing" that's there for sex on tap for her man! I hear you saying "I don't treat my wife like that" It's sometimes just how a woman feels. Come on guys, you get into bed next to your sexy wife and of course you want sex! You move close and spoon her, she feels that hardening manhood in her back, and boom....she say's no!

She's tired, feels unsexy,doesn't have her best underwear on and would just like a night when you don't want sex. You know what? I've always had the best sex in a hotel and not my own bed! Seriously, I think my mind is conditioned to associate my own bed with sleep and talking to my girl friends, they agree. I've been there, despite my high sex drive...he he he

How High Is Yours?

My suggestions o gentlemen friends are always pretty simple and I am taking into account that all circumstances are different. Women need to feel you understand them (even if you haven't a damn clue) you need to not let things get to a point that you can't even approach the 'S' word. Surprise her with a night away and make sure you let her know that it's NOT for sex but just to spend time together. Time to really be honest with each other and time to make a plan how you're going to get back on track. Many of my close friends have been through 'rough patches' and more often than not, they pass. Personally, I think than men shouldn't settle down 'till their late 30's and that if you meet and marry at a young age you need to keep the communication strong from the start as the changes from your 20'3 to your 30's are vast.

Spoil Her, Treat Her And Above All Surprise Her!

Run her a bath, make it smell great, add some candles. Wash her back! Even bathe together and laugh! Go for a lovely meal, somewhere different (Not Mc Donalds....joking!) and I feel that massage is the most effective way to become intimate again. Use a nice oil and even if your not that good at it, you'll learn quickly! Remember to do her feet as that's where all the important nerve endings are so she'll be truly relaxed. Even a neck, shoulders and head massage is beneficial....and could quite easily get the mood going.

   

Surprise Her With A Sexy Weekend?

If you can get to the UK or you live in the UK then a weekend in Scotland, The Lake District or The Malvern Hills is just exquisite. You can find a beautiful, quaint little hotel or 5* guest house where you'll get fed well, take in plenty of fresh air and experience quality time that doesn't involve shopping malls or crying children. I'm happy to recommend somewhere!

Tranquility On The Lakes Is Britain At It's Best!

For me, a naughty weekend is Amsterdam and the sexiest week is The Maldives. Amsterdam has so many cultural things, museums, cafes, great restaurants plus the kinky side. We used to visit Amsterdam a couple of times per year and we'd always hire bikes and cycle around like teenagers. It's so lovely to stop outside a cafe next to a canal and sit sipping coffee while watching the world go by.

Then there's the amazing sex shops, take her there and ask her to choose a few things she'd like to try, they have such great lingerie in Amsterdam and if you stay in a good hotel you'll be amazed because there's porn on several of the TV channels, it's megga sexy to sit and watch that together and if that doesn't get her in the mood then book a live sex show but you'll need to be prepared to do a little research for the good clubs as the regular ones are a little grotty and rather clinical.

Maldives is my No 1 for Romance

Wash your feet before you go in....

I saw a comment from Mr/Ms Anonymous telling me that I hadn't written about The Maldives, after mentioning it. Well here goes...
In relation to spicing things up, I really think that if The Maldives is within your budget then do it! Oh My Absolute God, I loved it so much that I had to return a while ago, although I will admit that it's the place to go for full on romance and lazing around. It's not a place for the guy's and gals who want the cultural experience and eating in street markets, exploring etc. it's the ultimate PLEASURE and intimate escape with the one you love...or Lust. I went the first time with a guy whom I was very much in love with (I think, at the time) We chose here because he wanted to impress, romance and capture my heart lol It was a while ago!
No, I don't know really, I think he booked it for 2 reasons 1. It was on my bucket list and  2. Kuoni had a fantastic offer not to be sniffed at! We booked for 2 weeks on a lovely island called Meerufenfushi (I think)
We arrived by water plane and stayed in a beautiful villa on stilts.

You will think I'm silly but I swear this is true, I CRIED when we arrived. I had always dreamt of going to such a beautiful place and it was magnificently more captivating than any photo could have shown it to be. (bit like me)

We had a Jacuzzi on the balcony and the stairs went straight into the sea which was amazing for that midnight swim. We could sunbathe and swim naked and have dinner served on the beach. We dived, snorkeled, played tennis, went on a couple of lovely excursions, ate fantastic food, drank cocktails under the stars every night, visited the spa every day and when we got back to the villa each night we found fruit, chocolates, flowers and always a beautifully made thing on the bed like a kind of "sheet origami" ha ha. The staff were excellent, the place was a dream and the sex was morning, noon, night and in between!

So Guys...if you wish for any help as to where to take your lady in the Maldives, I'm here to help.
If you do go make sure you visit the mosque in Male and do take the night fishing trip, it's awesome.

Milly x

A Nice Hotel In Amsterdam      Read About The Lakes    5* with Kuoni 

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